When You're Down and Troubled...

Uncategorized May 01, 2019

The words are by Carole King. You may know it best in the harmonious voice of James Taylor.  The message is universal. And perhaps today it is more applicable than ever...

"When you're down and troubled
And you need some love and care
And nothing, nothing is going right,
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest night."

The song hit #1 on the charts in 1971, and won multiple Grammy awards. My guess is that there is something in us that needs to be reminded every so often that we are not alone and that help is closer than we know:

"Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call..
And I'll be there.
You've got a friend."

Earlier this week, I had the opportunity to interview budding student leaders for a full scholarship to a Leadership Camp this summer. I'll share the full story with you this week in our "What If Wednesday" live stream at the top of the hour on Facebook.

Every student had been recommended by a teacher or...

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The Three Priorities

Uncategorized Apr 24, 2019

April has been a whirlwind. This morning, I sat down to regroup, refocus, and reprioritize.

As I reflected on my priorities, I realized that my top three priorities are universal. They never change.  And, in fact, if I continue to focus first on my top three priorities, everything else will likely fall into place.

Priority #1 - Managing how I feel.  This is an internal quest.  My first priority each day is to notice how I feel inside... about myself, about my day, about what's possible. If I'm feeling down or anxious or dreading some aspect of my day, the first priority is to create a mental shift, a reframe, to help me move into a fresh perspective. 

Priority #2 - Managing how I feel... on a physical level. Did I get enough sleep? Am I giving myself the nutrition I need to stay energized throughout the day? Am I tending to my body so it can carry me through the day's tasks?  My second priority each day is to ensure that I feel as good as possible...

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The Invincible Strength of the Human Spirit

Uncategorized Apr 18, 2019

I'm struggling to put into words what I've experienced in the past 24 hours...

I'm in California this week.  Yesterday, I had the honor of presenting a keynote address at the 2019 CalWorks Conference. CalWorks is an organization committed to lifting California families out of poverty through education.  There were more than 400 people in the room, representing Community Colleges, County services, and students who are using the program to radically change their lives for the better.

It's impossible for me to imagine what it would be like to grow up with both parents incarcerated.  Or to survive domestic violence. Or human trafficking. Or to be a single mom trying to get by on welfare while going to school and working all day.  The odds of making it through these kinds of challenges seemed almost insurmountable.

Until yesterday...

Yesterday, I saw the invincible strength of the human spirit.  I saw people with...

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How to Rally when you Feel Defeated

what if up Apr 11, 2019

Sometimes you win. Sometimes you lose. But ouch. Sometimes a defeat can hit us hard.

This past week, I've had the opportunity to witness disappointment, ego blows, and outright failures.  While it my be natural to feel frustrated, saddened and discouraged sometimes, it's useful to have the mental capacity to rally.  To shake it off.  To learn the lessons, find the wins among the loss, and move forward.

For this week's "What If Wednesday" brainstorm, I'm reaching out to all of YOU to hear ideas for how you rally from disappointment:

How do you break the momentum of a negative spiral of thoughts and feelings, and find peace, wisdom, and perhaps even new possibilities as the result of your most disappointing experiences?

What if we could be mindful of how our experiences are influencing our thoughts, feelings, and actions in every circumstance?

What if we avoid judging our thoughts and feelings and treat ourselves lovingly regardless of our current state of mind?


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Who do you think you are?

what if up Apr 03, 2019

We took a deep dive last night in our monthly What If Up Club online coaching call... daring to explore our thoughts and feelings about our own sense of identity.  Who have you been in the past?  Who are you now? Who are you becoming?

So, this week, for What If Wednesday, we dare to ask the question:  Who do you think you are?? 

What if your sense of identity focuses on your strengths, your gifts, and your willingness to grow and expand?

What if you identify and let go of limiting ideas that you (or others) may have about who you are and what you can accomplish?

What if the best of who you are is partly the result of the most difficult experiences you've had, consciously leveraged for your highest good?

Share your "I AM..." for who you are and who you are becoming with a community that sees your beauty, your power, and your truest, highest self.

For me, I AM grateful for the opportunity to bring this...

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Playing on the Thin Branches

Uncategorized Mar 28, 2019

Here's a big question for you.  Be honest.

How willing are you to learn? To change? To grow?

Most of us nod our head and affirm that we are open and eager to learn new things.  But what happens when those new things land us in new uncharted territory?  Are we still so eager?

This week's What If Wednesday possibilities rant is inspired by a beautifully honest comment in our What If Up Online Community:

"I'm a few years into studying metaphysical teachings and the classes are bringing up all my fears about being stupid and sharing my opinions. I come from a very logical background. I have a degree in Math. I'm used to knowing that I'm on the right path and now I'm completely out of my comfort zone. Someone said that there are no wrong answers - I don't find any comfort in that. I feel comfort in knowing that I'm right. How can I open myself up to the joy of the mystery or embrace this discomfort?"

Ever been in these shoes?  How long has it been since you stepped...

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A Rising Tide...

Uncategorized Mar 20, 2019

You've probably heard the aphorism, "A rising tide lifts all boats," right?

Usually, the phrase is used in an economic context, but for today's "What If Wednesday" possibility, a different meaning comes to mind...

What if elevating our mood and expanding our capacity to experience and express joy and love are the secret to up-lifting all the circumstances in our lives?

What if are highest priority is not to set goals and intentions, but to focus our energies on how we feel about ourselves and the world around us?

What if the only way to lift the boat is by focusing on and filling up the stream we have placed it in?

This morning, I had the pleasure of speaking at the Rising Tide Business Network.  Thank you to everyone who connected with me there as we purposefully worked together to create a rising tide. 

Remember this week to prioritize the way you feel and allow the rest to float on your hopes, dreams and enthusiasm. 

The tide is high......

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The Luck O' the Irish

what if up Mar 13, 2019

I was talking with my friend Robin yesterday, and I mentioned to her that I was considering doing a special What If Wednesday this week to celebrate St. Patrick's Day:  

What if today is my lucky day?

Robin is a masterful What If Upper, so she immediately plussed my possibility:  What if EVERY DAY is your lucky day??

It turns out, there have been clinical studies that demonstrate that our belief in our own "luckiness" actually creates better luck.  Consider this...

What if good things flow to you from "out of the blue" today (and every day!)

What if you are "magically" led to the perfect opportunities, the best connections, and the most dynamic resources to move you forward today (and every day!)

What if you are, in fact, the luckiest person on the planet, unafraid of taking inspired actions, knowing that things always work out for you in the most brilliant and amazing way?

It turns out, "lucky" people have a whole lot in common. It all begins with how...

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What's Your Story?

what if up Mar 06, 2019

Seen any good movies lately?

Personally, I love gooey cheesy chick-flicks.  In the beginning, it may look like things aren't working out, yet I know, in the end, a predictable blissful ending is inevitable.  I count on it. 

What is the story that you tell about your own life?  Are you the courageous hero?  Are you the unsuspecting victim?  Are you destined for happy outcomes no matter how bleak the circumstances may be? Or is there always a villain that tragically bests you out of the good you deserve?

What if your story is your point of attraction?

What if the way we see ourselves and speak about our past experiences paves the way for more of the same?

What if, by changing the way we tell our story, we can consciously change the outcome?  What if we put ourselves in a whole new genre of possibility!?

This week, we're looking at the stories we tell about ourselves, and how to shift them if we are setting ourselves up for an unhappy...

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The Happy Dance

what if up Feb 27, 2019

When is the last time you did your "Happy Dance"? You know the one...  Yep. That one.

What was the occasion?  A celebration?  The arrival of good news?  A special accomplishment?

What if we don't need a reason to feel happy?
What if, today, you do your "Happy Dance" just because.
What if you take a moment, right now, to lift yourself to a state of sheer joy?
What if you share that joy with someone just for the fun of it?

This week's invitation is to choose happiness.  Claim it as your default emotional setting. Turn up the volume and do your dance...

In the process, we just might experience more than an enjoyable day.  A vast amount of scientific data now demonstrates that happiness is good for the heart, boosts the immune system, and decreases stress.  It also helps us live longer, so there's something else to dance about!

I've been playing with happiness this week, and remembering how it paves the way for ease and...

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