How to Rally when you Feel Defeated

what if up Apr 11, 2019

Sometimes you win. Sometimes you lose. But ouch. Sometimes a defeat can hit us hard.

This past week, I've had the opportunity to witness disappointment, ego blows, and outright failures.  While it my be natural to feel frustrated, saddened and discouraged sometimes, it's useful to have the mental capacity to rally.  To shake it off.  To learn the lessons, find the wins among the loss, and move forward.

For this week's "What If Wednesday" brainstorm, I'm reaching out to all of YOU to hear ideas for how you rally from disappointment:

How do you break the momentum of a negative spiral of thoughts and feelings, and find peace, wisdom, and perhaps even new possibilities as the result of your most disappointing experiences?

What if we could be mindful of how our experiences are influencing our thoughts, feelings, and actions in every circumstance?

What if we avoid judging our thoughts and feelings and treat ourselves lovingly regardless of our current state of mind?


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Who do you think you are?

what if up Apr 03, 2019

We took a deep dive last night in our monthly What If Up Club online coaching call... daring to explore our thoughts and feelings about our own sense of identity.  Who have you been in the past?  Who are you now? Who are you becoming?

So, this week, for What If Wednesday, we dare to ask the question:  Who do you think you are?? 

What if your sense of identity focuses on your strengths, your gifts, and your willingness to grow and expand?

What if you identify and let go of limiting ideas that you (or others) may have about who you are and what you can accomplish?

What if the best of who you are is partly the result of the most difficult experiences you've had, consciously leveraged for your highest good?

Share your "I AM..." for who you are and who you are becoming with a community that sees your beauty, your power, and your truest, highest self.

For me, I AM grateful for the opportunity to bring this...

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The Luck O' the Irish

what if up Mar 13, 2019

I was talking with my friend Robin yesterday, and I mentioned to her that I was considering doing a special What If Wednesday this week to celebrate St. Patrick's Day:  

What if today is my lucky day?

Robin is a masterful What If Upper, so she immediately plussed my possibility:  What if EVERY DAY is your lucky day??

It turns out, there have been clinical studies that demonstrate that our belief in our own "luckiness" actually creates better luck.  Consider this...

What if good things flow to you from "out of the blue" today (and every day!)

What if you are "magically" led to the perfect opportunities, the best connections, and the most dynamic resources to move you forward today (and every day!)

What if you are, in fact, the luckiest person on the planet, unafraid of taking inspired actions, knowing that things always work out for you in the most brilliant and amazing way?

It turns out, "lucky" people have a whole lot in common. It all begins with how...

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What's Your Story?

what if up Mar 06, 2019

Seen any good movies lately?

Personally, I love gooey cheesy chick-flicks.  In the beginning, it may look like things aren't working out, yet I know, in the end, a predictable blissful ending is inevitable.  I count on it. 

What is the story that you tell about your own life?  Are you the courageous hero?  Are you the unsuspecting victim?  Are you destined for happy outcomes no matter how bleak the circumstances may be? Or is there always a villain that tragically bests you out of the good you deserve?

What if your story is your point of attraction?

What if the way we see ourselves and speak about our past experiences paves the way for more of the same?

What if, by changing the way we tell our story, we can consciously change the outcome?  What if we put ourselves in a whole new genre of possibility!?

This week, we're looking at the stories we tell about ourselves, and how to shift them if we are setting ourselves up for an unhappy...

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The Happy Dance

what if up Feb 27, 2019

When is the last time you did your "Happy Dance"? You know the one...  Yep. That one.

What was the occasion?  A celebration?  The arrival of good news?  A special accomplishment?

What if we don't need a reason to feel happy?
What if, today, you do your "Happy Dance" just because.
What if you take a moment, right now, to lift yourself to a state of sheer joy?
What if you share that joy with someone just for the fun of it?

This week's invitation is to choose happiness.  Claim it as your default emotional setting. Turn up the volume and do your dance...

In the process, we just might experience more than an enjoyable day.  A vast amount of scientific data now demonstrates that happiness is good for the heart, boosts the immune system, and decreases stress.  It also helps us live longer, so there's something else to dance about!

I've been playing with happiness this week, and remembering how it paves the way for ease and...

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Space to Breathe

what if up Feb 20, 2019

Ever feel like you've got so much on your plate, there's never a chance to stop and breathe?

Yet, something inside you knows that you do have the time. To take a breath.  To regroup.  To step outside. To open your eyes and savor the beauty-full life you've created.  

What if we allow ourselves to have more of these moments?

This week, I'm grateful for divinely timed weather delays, unexpected changes of plans, and ideas that "didn't work" disappearing from my overloaded plate.

It's What If Wednesday once again and this week, our focus is on creating some "breathing room" so we can allow showers of good juju to fill us UP!

What if we take a blissful moment between each of the tasks on our "to-do" list today to look around and find something beautiful to appreciate?

What if these moments give us an emotional reset that clears our mind and lightens our steps?

What if these easy breezy mindful moments have the power to put us in the flow, inspire creative ideas, and...

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what if up Feb 13, 2019

This heartfelt request of our community popped up through our online What If UP Membership Group.

How would YOU respond?

"I'm preparing to launch my new business and... I've gone into a bit of a tailspin about finding my 'why.' This question led me to a very dark night of the soul years ago, and now I don't know what to do with it since I never properly answered my own question before, and I've done a lot of soul-searching...maybe not so much listening though...I think I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself to find the perfect why...I could definitely use some what if upping from all you lovely souls. Thank you in advance!"

What if your "why" is not something you have to find? What if it's something you create?  And, if inspired, re-create? What if you can't get it wrong?

What if your most powerful "why" is hidden among the things you love?  What would you give your life to protect?  What would you give your life to build?

What if your...

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Starting Something New...

what if up Feb 06, 2019

I am still riding high from last night's Kick-Off Party! My dear friend Joe Vitale, from the movie The Secret, was our special guest and it was raise-the-roof fabulous!  

Here's my little secret: I was actually pretty nervous all day yesterday as I was preparing.  Truth be told, I was "what if DOWNing" like crazy. Yes, after all these years, it still happens on occasion!

But then I applied Joe's techniques for stepping into a new dream, and it shifted my paradigm around this new path and new adventure.  Perhaps, if you've been contemplating a leap of faith in life, it will be helpful for you, too:

What if you have everything it takes to take your ideas to the next level?

What if any fear, nervousness or anxiety about a new direction is actually a sign that you are venturing beyond what you know, and therefore, broadening yourself and all that is possible for you?

What if, by stepping outside your comfort zone, you are breaking out of old patterns and old ideas...

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